So last night I had to attend a cocktail reception with my husband after work in the city. After days of complaining that I had nothing to wear due to my weight gain this past year (meds, stress eating/drinking) and being insecure due to my crazy hormones and bloatedness (is that a even a word?) I finally found a nice dress to wear, put my big girl panties on (a.k.a my spanx) and went to the party.
My husband, B, is in Construction. Senior Project manager for commercial construction. This party was to celebrate a few things but one was for the work that they all did in building a beautiful new building for a medical drug manufacturer who are working on finding the cure for cancer (no, for real…you just wait). This company is also one of the manufacturers for our IVF meds (crazy, right?).
My husband has become very close, personally, with the Construction Manager for this big drug manufacturer and I’ve met him and his wife and we now spend a lot of time together. When B & I received our meds for our first round of IUI, we saw the manufacturer for our Ovidrel trigger shot and were STUNNED!! That’s our buddy, T’s, company!! B excitedly called T to tell him about our journey and he was so excited for us and told us so many positive stories about friends he knows who have gotten pregnant with the meds. SO EXCITING!!
Back to the party. I met this lovely couple, J & K. J works for the construction group of this drug manufacturer as well. T (B’s buddy) comes over to ask how i’m doing as he knows that I was starting my first round of IVF meds last week. He asks when I start the Gonal-F injections (a product of their company) and I tell him, Sunday. He whispers in my ear “can I tell J & K?”. Confused as to why he wants to tell them, I say OF COURSE! Why not? I have nothing to hide…but I certainly don’t want any sympathy!!
T tells J & K that I’m about to start Gonal-F and K (J’s beautiful wife) SCREAMS with excitement and then grabs me and HUGS me SO tight. She let go of me and said “Both of our pregnancies were through IVF”.
I can’t even tell you how I felt that at that moment.
Like I wanted to cry (stupid hormones).
Like I wanted to spill every single emotion to her at that moment….fear, hope, jealousy, anxiety, sadness, hopelessness….you get the picture.
After trying to hold back tears for a few minutes while hearing J & K’s journey, I finally pulled myself together to talk to K about everything. What a wonderful woman. She was so raw and real with me. Trust me I NEEDED THAT SO BADLY!! No one else, other than my other friend K who is going through her 2nd round of IUI, know’s what the hell I’m going through and I feel like I can’t talk to many people about it. Letting it all out last night was like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders.
Needless to say, leaving the party last night, I felt a whole new sense of relief and hope.
I’m not sure if I’ll ever see J & K again but I’m so grateful for our chance meeting. I wish they knew how much of an impact they really made on me in just one night. Grateful that they weren’t ashamed to share their story with me and try to life my spirits and encourage me and push me to keep moving forward.
It truly goes to show that you really don’t ever know what people are going through or have gone through in their life.